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Hawk Nelson has a song called California. It goes:
I'm not falling for anymore of these tricks,
I'm so tired of everything here,
The sun is calling me to the west,
Everyone's having fun out there,
My bags are packed as I'm looking out the window,
Everything is so outdated here,
I wanna move west where the sun is shining,
I want my friends to all be there,

Let's pack up and move to California,
She's got lots of friends out there,
We'll never get bored cause we can go boardin',
Let's let the sunshine take us there!

Well, I'm going!
Mom and Dad have the kids and I'm meeting Cathy from the 58th floor in Chicago and Cheri from California. Do you remember them? We are the three C's. We saw each other through the toughest times in our lives. You can visit them here: Cathy and Cheri

I imagine the weekend will be full of chocolate, champagne and kleenex. Oh, and lots of hugs!


  1. Lots of love to you my friend and your two friends. I remember the time the three of you bound together as one on an awful journey all in three different geographic locations but three entwined hearts. Chelle you united so many people here in Walla Walla with these two wonderful woman and now you can unite together and hug, love, laugh and cry. How wonderful for you and for them. I am proud of you to add this journey in your chapter of your life; you will be better for it. HAVE FUN!

  2. I hope you have a great time!

  3. This is good michelle. Enjoy. You deserve it. Love Sherri

  4. Michelle this is wonderful, I am so excited for you. I know your gone already but want you to know I am thinking of you all weekend. Enjoy some chocolate for me. We will catch up when your home. Hope you took lots of pictures.

  5. What a wonderful idea. I'm a big believer in "Girls' Weekends." Nothing like a girlfriend to clear your head! And the significance of the bond you share with the other two Cs can't be overstated, I'll bet. I hope it is three (other) Cs: Calming, Cleansing and Cathartic.

    --Patti in NJ

  6. WE DID IT !!! And, I hope we do it again!! Take care my friend, spending time with you just reinforced what a special person you are, and how lucky we all are to have you in this world. I wish we never had to meet, honestly, but I'm so grateful that we did. I'll never ever forget you, Dave, and Walla Walla. Here's to more chocolate, champagne and hugs.
    love you ,


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