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Steps Toward the Ordinary

One step at a time.
It's been a slow process for all of us.
Last night, I made dinner, kids and dog underfoot as usual. For those of you that have been following the saga, you know that for the last ten months, we've been eating mostly in my bed, the dining room table one of those places where Dave's absence is felt so keenly, we simply couldn't manage it.
So last night, as we fill our plates, Kate pulls out a placemat and sits down at the table. And I think, "Is she going to eat there all by herself?"
And Zach fills his plate, looks at his sister, and walks over to the table. He thinks for a moment, and then says, "Mom, I think we should sit here. Sit here together and talk, like we used to."
Can I do this? Can we do this?
So I sit across from Kate.
Kenny hovers in the kitchen. Wandering a little. Back and forth between refrigerator and sink. Hesitant, unsure, looking at us out of the corner of his eye.
Zach says, "Come …

Dave & Doug - The Beta Years

Doug Andrews

"Ever The Same" by Rob Thomas
We were drawn from the weeds
We were brave like soldiers
Falling down under the pale moonlight
You were holding to me
Like a someone broken
And I couldn't tell you but I'm telling you now
Just let me hold you while you're falling apart
Just let me hold you and we'll both fall down
Fall on me
Tell me everything you want me to be
Forever with you forever in me
Ever the same
We would stand in the wind
We were free like water
Flowing down
Under the warmth of the sun
Now it's cold and we're scared
And we've both been shaken
Hey, look at us
Man, this doesn't need to be the end
Just let me hold you while you're falling apart
Just let me hold you and we'll both fall down
Fall on me
Tell me everything you want me to be
Forever with you
Forever in me
Ever the same
Call on me
I'll be there for you and you'll be there for me
Forever it's you
Forever in me
Ever the same
You may need me there
To carry all yo…

Wonderful people!

In all the horror that is grief, I find myself surrounded by wonderful people. In the scope of things, it does not balance the scales. I would certainly trade these gifts for one more day with Dave, but I find it's important to take the good when you find it. One of Dave's favorite sayings was, "If you spend all your time grieving the life you don't have, you'll miss the one you do!"

Today when I came to pick Kenny up from football practice, I watched as he wrestled with Matt Stroe. They circled each other, lunging, taking each other down, rolling on the ground, pinning each other. Two faces, full of delight, with huge grins, glimmers of Dave in those smiles.

When we came home from the hospital last week, I found a wonderful ham dinner on my doorstep, from Cheri and her sister Clara. A bit of love, a bit of comfort in a box. I got to meet Clara on one of our basketball trips to Spokane. It was a magical time. I walked into the lobby and saw her. She stood up…

8th Grade Recognition

Hi there all,
Zach had his 8th Grade Recognition on Tuesday night. He was an Advisory Representative, so he read the names of the people in his class. It was great to see the kids, all dressed up and excited. Zach also received the Presidential Award for maintaining a GPA above 3.5 and passing all four sections of the WASL. I was very proud of him.

Here are some more pictures of Kate's dance recital.

Kate's Dance Recital

Last year, we were in the hospital. Dave was admitted on Memorial Day with blood clots in his lungs. He developed a staph infection in his arm from an IV that should have been taken out. He missed Kate's dance recital. We went to the hospital to see him right after she danced. He was so proud of her. He made it out just in time for Kenny's 8th grade graduation.

This year...we went to the hospital on Memorial Day again. Zach this time. Nothing like a cuddle from your sis to get you on the road to recovery quickly. Zach's 8th grade graduation is tomorrow, thank goodness he's out in time for that.

Both brothers in the audience, an answered prayer for our little dancer. Each boy gave her a yellow rose. They each gave one to Annalee, too. This was Annalee's first recital and she was cute as a button.

Kate danced beautifully, full of grace and poise. She looked so grown up. She is in Jazz 4 this year, and it's fairly advanced. The dances are quite complex and they h…


Sunday, June 4, 2006 11:48 PM CDT

I'm working on closing this site. It's time. Time for a change. Maybe a change of luck will follow!

Over the next few days, I'll be refining the front page so that it is more of a memorial page for Dave. The first thing I did was update the links to the Union-Bulletin articles about Dave. They had been retired from the U-B site, so I took my saved copies and linked to them. So if you haven't seen those articles, or got broken links before, check them out above. Got a bit more work to do, then I will then save the front page, the journal history and the guestbook to cd for the kids to have in years to come. I will plan to keep this site open until around the anniversary of Dave's death, which should give occasional visitors a chance to catch up and find us at our new place...

Rest assured, there will still be a cyberhome where you can track the happenings (or mishaps, as the case may be) of Team Meyer. Check out the new blog: The M…


Friday, June 2, 2006 10:27 PM CDT


The tests came back. It's just the regular old stupid staph, so Zach got to come home....IN A LIMO!

Thanks to Pete and Kyle!


Zach Update

Friday, June 2, 2006 4:49 PM CDT

Thank you to all the prayer warriors out there, and to all the hordes of lively, hungry teenage boys who boisterously clamor in, ride the bed, eat the chocolate and keep Zach's spirits up.

Zach: The surgery went well. The bone is intact and perfect. Hooray! The cultures show that the infection is staph, which is no surprise. We will find out tomorrow if it's a garden variety staph. If so, Z will go home on oral antibiotics. If it's a resistant strain, they will do another surgery and place a PICC line in his arm and he will receive IV antibiotics at home. The line would probably not be able to be placed until Monday, so he'd likely go home Tuesday. We're praying HARD for alternative #1.

Kenny: The labs showed no signs of infection and they have ruled out kidney stones. So, bottom line, they aren't sure what's causing it. The good news is, they are treating it as if it's a topical infection in the penis/urethra,…

Guest Blogger Updates

Thursday, June 1, 2006 10:20 AM CDT

New update from another guest journalist, this one from Claudia, member Team Meyer, Texas branch:

Zach's surgery was delayed until 4 p.m. but the results indicate that there is no infection in the bone. This is a real relief!! Now we just have to wait for the antibiotics to work.

In the meantime, as if we needed more in the lives of our dear Meyers, Michelle is now with Kenny in the ER with pain and blood in his urine. No determination has been made as yet regarding the nature of this problem.

So, please continue to keep this family in your prayers as you have been. I think they all need time off for some foolish hi-jinx, myself!!

Claudia Williams

Well, it's finally happened... Shell's chaotic life has necessitated a guest journalist! Deb Wright here, reporting on Zach's status:

The "bazooka" antibiotics that worked so nicely the first 24 hours stalled enough to make the doctors want to poke around--they lanced the main sit…