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20 Years

September 20, 1986

Twenty years ago, amid friends and family, with love and incredible hope, Dave and I became husband and wife, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death parted us. It was the single most important decision we ever made, and it was more than we could have imagined. More in every way.

Can you tell? He was my hero. From the first minute I saw him, in a Hawaiian shirt, with his cowboy boots, his guitar slung across his back and a bandana wrapped around his 80's perm, I saw that smile, and knew it was something extraordinary.

But I had no idea how extraordinary. Dave was pure magic. He really was the prince every little girl dreams of. Listen to the many people are lucky enough to find a love like that? I only wish he could have stayed.


  1. Happy Anniversary Michelle, You have such memories of your prince. I am sorry also he is not here to make more of them. Some people are never so lucky to have a partner that means as much to them. You had close to 19 wonderful years and now have an angel looking down on you.
    Hope you and the kids are doing well. It is a very busy time of you for all of you with school and sports.
    Have a new load of cartridges coming your way tomorrow.
    God Bless You and the kids and your angel Dave.

  2. you've been blessed with a love like that. and to have a good relationship and marriage...most people are looking a lifetime for what you two had...we all could only be as fortunate.

  3. As tears are running down my face listening to your song from Dave, looking at your wedding picture, I know that not very many are lucky enough to have a love like that. Thoughts and prayers go out to you. Sherri

  4. Michelle, what love, what joy, what happiness, what true devotion you and Dave had. What an example you have set for the children you two created. What an example you have set for other couples. I only wish Dave could still be by your side in body instead of spirit. However, his love lives on through all of you. I love you my friend and know I pray for you often. My tears are flowing as I listen to the song and think of what is missing. Happy Anniversary!!!!

  5. What a beautiful picture..and yes, what a beautiful smile...electrifying. Had you known then what you know now, you would not have changed a thing .... you would have done it all again, over and over, if you had to. What a wonderful wife you have been, what a wonderful life and family you built, one that is so strong, that can withstand all the hardships that have come your way. Be proud of that love Michelle, no one can ever, ever take that away from you. Love never dies.
    Sending you much love...


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