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Sweet Lou

My friend Cathy is walking beside her dear Lou.
Walking through the valley of the shadow of death.
And while she fears no evil,
I know there is much she does fear.
Learning to live without her hero next to her is only one thing.
Many of you follow her blog; the link is at right.
Please pray for her, for Lou and their two sons.
Imagine how much support she can feel, if we surround her with our prayers.
Now imagine, if each person who reads this, who prays, takes a moment to write a note saying so on her blog. Then she could not only feel it, but know it.

For all of us who are left behind,
not understanding,
clinging to hope...

With Hope by Steven Curtis Chapman

This is not at all how
We thought it was supposed to be
We had so many plans for you
We had so many dreams
And now you've gone away
And left us with the memories of your smile
And nothing we can say
And nothing we can do
Can take away the pain
The pain of losing you, but ...

We can cry with hope
We can say goodbye with hope
'Cause we know our goodbye is not the end, oh no
And we can grieve with hope
'Cause we believe with hope
(There's a place by God's grace)
There's a place where we'll see your face again
We'll see your face again

And never have I known
Anything so hard to understand
And never have I questioned more
The wisdom of God's plan
But through the cloud of tears
I see the Father's smile and say well done
And I imagine you
Where you wanted most to be
Seeing all your dreams come true
'Cause now you're home
And now you're free, and ...

We have this hope as an anchor
'Cause we believe that everything
God promised us is true, so ...

So we can cry with hope
And say goodbye with hope

We wait with hope
And we ache with hope
We hold on with hope
We let go with hope


  1. "Sweet Lou" how sad. Praying for Lou, Cathy and their boys as they travel this road.

  2. I sent dear Cathy a message before I read yours...but I guess it's time I also tell you how often you and your kids are in my thoughts...which is daily. I know this has been a long, lonely, difficult journey for you, but you have been such an inspiration to so many in sharing it. Your kids, being kids, probably don't realize it, but their mother is a rare individual in her ability to articulate and share her feelings to help others. They are incredibly lucky to have such a strong and supportive mother. Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts for the benefit of so many.

  3. Michelle I just came from Cathy's site how sad. I am praying for them. I am thinking of you also. I know this hurts you. You are such great support for she and the family and for all others on both sites. I pray Lou is peaceful that would help Cathy. She is doing the right thing she is doing what she needs to do. I hope she feels the love from Walla Walla. Wish we could be there for her.
    God Bless You Michelle.

  4. Forgot to mention one important thing...Dave would be so very proud of the way you have handled everything this last year...I was going to say "without him" but that's not right, because he has been right beside you, as Lou will continue to be with Cathy.


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